Recently, I discovered how I’ve conditioned myself to forgive in the absence of an apology; sadly, I had begun to no longer expect one. We are really bad at apologizing , let alone, asking for forgiveness when we’ve wronged someone. We Lean into the thought that the imperfections in another cancels out the need for accountability on our part. We close our connections by simply walking away and thinking “oh well”…convincing ourselves that the other person overreacted. The blind spots in our self awareness comes into play with us avoiding accountability, indulging in our pride, and yes, upholding the fear of vulnerability.
Death to the ‘Good Guy’
It’s a Performance. Death to the Good Girl was all about upholding a title that silently erased me as a woman. Many women and men alike could…… Read more “Death to the ‘Good Guy’”
Imperfect Activism & the Age of Social Media
Whether you’re outraged or outraged about the outrage, plain ole confused…this post is for you. Imperfect Activism in the age of social media I’m writing this as…… Read more “Imperfect Activism & the Age of Social Media”
Why We NEED Lawrence on HBO’s Insecure
The dislike many of you feel for Lawrence stems for the real duality of his character. This idea that many men ruin women who want to believe…… Read more “Why We NEED Lawrence on HBO’s Insecure”
I Took a Vow of Silence for a day & it wasn’t as Easy as I Thought…
The thought came in the shower; the birthplace of all great ideas. One of my bucket list dreams is to take a vow of…… Read more “I Took a Vow of Silence for a day & it wasn’t as Easy as I Thought…”
It’s a Shame
Remember that feeling you use to get in middle school. Constant anxiety of dressing the part, saying the right things, liking the right people. Fitting in and…… Read more “It’s a Shame”
My Complicated Love Affair with Clothes
Some people dress to impress. I dress to reflect my energy; sometimes quite literally wearing my heart on my sleeve. Using clothes as an expression of myself…… Read more “My Complicated Love Affair with Clothes”
You don’t like me & I’m OK with that
I started thinking about how jarring it is to discover that you’re disliked by someone. These days people don’t come out and say ”I don’t like you.”…… Read more “You don’t like me & I’m OK with that”
The ONE That Got Away Pt. 2
For a while I found myself locked in a daydreamy memory of how the kisses felt when I was 16. How intoxicating lovemaking was when I was…… Read more “The ONE That Got Away Pt. 2”
Closed Doors Don’t Get Fed: a talk of closure and the one that got away pt. 1
Lack of closure feels like you’re standing at a door waiting for the other person to open it. This leds us to think that real closure is…… Read more “Closed Doors Don’t Get Fed: a talk of closure and the one that got away pt. 1”
