Fuck it Feng Shui

Every couple of months you can peek through my apartment window and see chairs flying across the room, tables being moved and bed sets being tossed out. Why?...I actually just discovered the answer to this myself. I do a process I like to call…

The Morning After

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Do you find yourself bent over your desk, struggling to keep your eyes open the Monday morning after a few days off from work? If you're like me then I'm guessing your jobs have jobs. Days off feel like they're strategically placed just so you…

Hello Grief, You Old Friend

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Someone recently said that you shouldn't grieve until the person is actually gone. Part of me agrees. Yet, part of me is familiar with that technique among others that I get advised to take. Grief is defined as a loss of something. If you perceive…

“I DO!” But Maybe, I Shouldn’t

A good friend tells you about their engagement, and after the screaming finally wanes and the tears dry she/he asks you to be a part of their celebration of love. OF COURSE you say yes but there are a few things you should consider before you…

3 Things to Learn from Your Millennial Mistakes

The tagline for Let's Build Futures (One Millennial Mistake at a Time) isn't just a catchy sentence meant to draw your attention. If you look closely between those lines you can see me kicking myself repeatedly; because if it's one thing I'm…

Prioritize Like a Boss

Sometimes the problem isn't that you don't set priorities, because you do. The problem could be that you don't have enough of them to address the things you want in life or the ones you have are simply outdated and fit your current situation…

#SquadGoals Unfiltered

Like a family, my group of friends are dysfunctional AF. Yet, the very different personalities, unique to each individual friend, seem to fit like a puzzle together. And I'll let you in on a little secret, not all of us are ballin' out of control,…

3 Ways to Conquer Your Consumerism

Practicing delayed gratification is said to be something successful people do but when you're not yet successful it can just feel like an endless cycle of telling yourself "No, not yet." "No Wait." "Don't spend that you may need it." or "Don't…

Wronging Your Rights

Ever made the right choices and got the wrong results? Can I raise two hands and a leg to show that I have, multiple times throughout my young adult life? Currently I'm battling the cancer of student loan debt, have just been informed that…

How to Lose Your Mind in 10 Days…and How to win it back

In the past 10 days I have been hit where it truly hurts...my pockets and my family. This one-two combo punch not only knocked me out in the first round but it sent me crying to every one who would listen. As a millennial there are few things…

Suspicions of Me

Do you trust yourself? "No. I don't....because of past choices I've made and I always need verification." Can you relate to this quote? I definitely can. When it comes to making any important decision I collect advice from those I trust with…

“Money” the dirtiest word

OK. So BOOM! There I was in the middle of my crappy job having started a mutiny amongst my co-workers to the big bosses; all because I had a conversation about the amount I was being paid with another co-worker. I assumed they were making more. All…

Fifty Shades of Crazy

  I hate conflict. It makes me itch and sweat in the most private places; that's why I attempt to avoid it at all costs. Actually, only one part of me wants to avoid it while the other part has taken off her earrings, shoes and started…

Brick by Brick

It's like we helped to build this house but only got credit for a few misplaced bricks. What is month when we've been here since the true beginning. Brick by Brick. What is a month. More than hot combs and peanut butter inventions. Beyond…

27 Going on 25

Birthdays are celebrations that bring out the best in you regardless of if the previous 364 days of the year in your life have been lackluster. But is it me or am I aging a bit too fast? The 28th of January is approaching, and I have all…

The Infamous Reputation of Forgiveness

Our deal breakers have become like a vast ocean in which we end up drowning ourselves, trying to stay afloat from something we're convinced is going under at the first sign of distress. "He did what??!! Oh girl leave his a**!” can be heard…

Growing Pains

FRIENDS! How many of us have them? FRIENDS! Ones you can depend on???? I guess the real question in that song should be... How many have you grown apart from? I'm not talking about those "friends" who are only considered friends because…

You don’t gotta go home but you gotta get the…

My favorite part of when people come over is when they leave. (Ha) I’m only half serious. There’s something soothing about having a place in this world where you can escape the questions, expectations, pleasantries and clothing (nudist…

The Truth about being Mary Jane AND G.I. Jane

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Come close. closer... I am about to give you top secretedy, secret information about the truth of balancing the Army reserves and civilian life. You've seen the commercials that make you want to fist pump and high five yourself because America…

Where are Your “Day Ones” on Day Two?

  Giving Support does not equal Getting Support. This has been a sobering reality as I've embarked on the journey to explore my dream, ideas, and goals for the Let's Build Mentoring Program and my blog. Where the hell are my day ones…

Breaking the Generational ‘Yes’ Cycle

  Saying Naw, Nope, Uh uh. Saying No. Is Hard AF for me. Instead I'll say: "Uhhhh, well....maybe...I think I could. Possibly..." Knowing damn well I don't want to because I effectively have all my money and time planned out weeks in…

I’m the Gift that Keeps on Giving

Alright, Alright...You guys got me. I’ll be doing a GIFT GIVEAWAY 😊😆🤯🎁🎉 All you have to do is share one of your favorite LET'S BUILD blog posts and tag me to enter OR visit my blog and comment on your favorite post. You can…

Investing in Myself Month

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Ahhhh, it's that time of year again for the phrase heard around the world. Come on. You know the one. You've even used it before. NEW YEAR, NEW ME ringing any bells? Well, I've decided that instead of attempting to construct a new me; I will…

The Ghost of Crisis Past

I could've been mistaken for a divorcee soccer mom with a habit of drinking too much wine before 12 p.m. I felt as though I was completely lost in life, not knowing what purpose I was to serve, what talents I had and confused on why it was taking…

Amazing Books I’ve Read this Year: Black Literary Wonders

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It's almost time to wrap up this year (Ha! see what I did there) but I didn't want to let  you go without passing on the gift of a good read. This blog isn't by any means a book review source but I am an advent reader who happens to work in…

Why “Making Money Moves” Doesn’t Always mean Making Money

By now we see Hashtag MONEY MOVES under every Instagram post featuring our fellow entrepreneur, blogger, InstaModel or world traveler (you know the one who always has money and time to travel; it's questionable as to how and where they get the…

Dream outside the lines

  Someone or something told me dreams were not for me. Dreams were for the smart or the rich or the lucky; but they were not meant for someone from my background with my skin color. This is true for many underprivileged children. Many…

Speaking as an Anxious Introvert

Cold sweats usually begin right under my arm pits and flow like a rapid waterfall just below my underdeveloped chest whenever I have to address a crowd or someone in a higher position than myself. At least that use to be the case. Years…

Anxiety and ASMR Videos

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I'm that person that keeps Snapchat on their phone primarily because I love reading the free article links from various networks and magazines. It was here, in a fit of insomnia, that I discovered an article on ASMR videos for the anxious, overwhelmed…

Fajitas and Feeling Myself

  It's Friday Night and I feel alright ( it's more like Saturday afternoon) and I'm getting cute because I'm preparing to go out on a date. I already know what I'm going to order at my favorite restaurant and that I can choose to see either…

Deuces: High Employee Turnover from a Millennial’s Perspective

  I found myself sitting in the chair opposite my immediate boss participating in an exit interview after barely two months. "I just want to touch base with you to understand any improvements that we can make to keep people here," he said.…

What in the Situationship is this?!

  So there I was. Knee deep in a situationship that lasted beyond its expiration date like Wal*mart brand milk. It was still good but not nearly as fresh. Half in love and more than half annoyed with myself. It wasn't the first time I…

Useful Things High School Never Taught You Vol. 1 FAFSA and Credit

  Ever been in a class and thought, when am I ever going to use this? Well, you're not the only one. Don't get me wrong learning algebra and American literature do help in establishing a great foundation for you to build on. It’s always…

No, I Don’t Need a Damn Cheeseburger and Other Rude Comments

  "Girl you need to eat!" "Naw, Imma put some more on your plate." I can't tell you how many times I've heard that comment from family and friends and how many times they've been thoroughly cursed out in my mind while I forced myself…

Post Traumatic Broke Syndrome

  I'm frugal AF. No. Seriously. Up until recently I had somehow convinced myself that I was perpetually broke and on the verge of being a forever broke. I was so into this mindset that eating out more than once a week was considered over…

Where Are All the Mentors?

  "Successful people often forget to teach others how they got there." -Bishop T.D. Jakes In general, there feels like a disconnect between those who've been there, done that and those who are prepping for what's to come. We give experience…

Survivor’s Remorse: Low income edition

  Constantly dealing with a feeling of guilt is a default emotion for many of those on the path out of poverty. Why me? Who am I to spend money on what I want but don't need? Am I changing into someone my family can't recognize? Many…

To Adult or Not to Adult?

  What are the milestones and achievements that solidify you as an adult? For me that wasn't the age of 18. Or 21 OR 25 for that matter. It wasn't when I brought my first car or joined the military. Completing a degree didn't do it for…

TMIS aka Too Many Ideas Syndrome

I have an awesome idea. From that idea comes 1 or 2 sub-ideas, then from those 1 or 2 sub-ideas comes 1 or 2 sub-sub ideas. Someone is talking to me about what happened on a show last night and it gives me an idea and from that idea comes…

Back to the Basics: Home Econ 2.0

When did school become so geared toward the traditional idea of success that it abandoned the teaching of actual basics? First comes graduation, then comes college then comes the career without the baby carriage. Home Economics in high schools…

The Secret Society of Late Bloomers

Also known as the "Glo' up," it's funny how we define this phrase on so many levels. Financially, physically, and generally, the "Glo' up" can happen in various aspects of life. BUT, for those of us out there that have been perpetually late…

The Glass Slipper Job Hunt

  When it comes to jobs I'm like Cinderella's prince with the glass slipper. I have tried out jobs, painfully forced myself into jobs and sometimes actually found the right fit. But what is it about this process that has come to be something…

Start Early with Internships for High School Students

The term Internship has often been viewed as something solely for undergraduate and graduate students. I started thinking about all the benefits that taking on an internship offers and wondered, why wasn't this something encouraged to high…

The Reality of Low Income Children

  There's a stigma that comes with identifying yourself or family as being low-income. But for many children it's a reality and if those who know about this harsh reality don't discuss it, then the long lasting effects of poverty will…

Save That Money, Secure the Bag

In a time where everyone is flashing expense trips and purchases on Instagram it's difficult not to mimic the trend. As young adults we face financial hardship greater than that of generations before us because many of us take on debt in the…

First Generation EVERYTHING

There is a sense of pride in knowing that you were the first in your family or group of friends to venture outside the "norm." For some that may be going to college, for others that may be joining the military. For some that may even be…