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Also known as the “Glo’ up,” it’s funny how we define this phrase on so many levels. Financially, physically, and generally, the “Glo’ up” can happen in various aspects of life. BUT, for those of us out there that have been perpetually late to the glo-up in all its levels since birth ( Me too Sis! ) let me explain why it’s okay.

For one, we all get concerned about fitting in at an early age. Trying to dress a certain way to attract the cute guy at school (I know you see this poppin’ outfit), wanting to have the new technology first so you can be included in discussions, or even changing your hair to the new wave.

We’ve all been there in some form or fashion; the difference for late bloomers is that trying to fit in doesn’t actually work. We fail miserably at it. A late bloomer is a person whose talents or capabilities are not visible to others until later than usual. Most of the time a late bloomer’s talents and capabilities are not even visible to themselves.

That is why being an outsider as a late bloomer is exactly what you need. Late bloomers are able to take their time in building a better understanding of themselves because generally, nobody else is going to understand you.

Some of the most amazing people have been late bloomers in life. Like Samuel L. Jackson who upon recovering from drug addiction landed his breakout role in pulp fiction. He was 46. J.K. Rowling, Tina Fey, Stephanie Myers, and Julia Child, Colonel Sanders, Bryan Cranston (Breaking Bad’s Walter White). I loved that show! Anyway, you get the point. Developing “on time” is not everyone’s destined path.

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Nowadays, we’re all so focused on having everything figured out in our 20s that we miss the benefits of taking our time. Late bloomers often have no choice in the matter. Whether its being a late bloomer financially, or a late bloomer who is just now accepting all your curves (or LACK thereof LOL); being late to the game teaches you a thing or two.

1. Many times you develop empathy for others. Late bloomers often feel like outcast and develop empathy for those who are different from mainstream society.

2. You have a strong sense of who you are because you were never able to fit into popular stereotypes.

3. Playing catch-up to different milestones helps you appreciate the experience more.

4. You learn from the mistakes of those who have gone before you.

5. Once you get older you’re not burnt out or bored by having already experienced things at an earlier age.

As a late bloomer don’t ever think that being different is a bad thing. Everyone is different in some way. And as corny as it sounds your lateness is what makes you special.When you discover your talents and skills at an older age you often are then equipped to nurture them.

I had two older sisters who were popular throughout high school because they already had a strong sense of who they were.While I loved seeing their experiences, I couldn’t mimic them even if I wanted to.

I was still lame through college. I think I might be lame still but in MY mind I’ve been poppin’ since Junior high sooooo who knows. However, being a late bloomer has taught me to appreciate exactly who I am, the way I am. I hope that all the late bloomers out there will feel the same way about themselves because Glo’ ups are inevitable but loving yourself; well, that’s entirely up to you.

Also Toni Morrison was a late bloomer and I absolutely adore her work.If you don’t know who she is DO BETTA!

Check out these articles!

https://thoughtcatalog.com/sophie-martin/2013/11/19-reasons-why-being-a-late-bloomer-made-you-a-better-person/

https://www.buzzfeed.com/kevintang/late-blooming-artists?utm_term=.maYyN75DdG#.fyOzrdZD7X

 

When it comes to jobs I’m like Cinderella’s prince with the glass slipper. I have tried out jobs, painfully forced myself into jobs and sometimes actually found the right fit. But what is it about this process that has come to be something I’m not ashamed of?

In the course of my young adult life, I’ve had about 10 jobs since the age of 17. I’m now 26. It’s not so shocking when you find research like the Bureau of Labor Statistics that shows the average young adult has held approximately 6.2 jobs by the age of 26.

I’ve read articles that focus on this phenomena as a negative but I’ve found that it’s helped me hone into what it is I really want and what I don’t want in a career.

I’ve tapped into my strengths and weaknesses and learned valuable skills along the way. This post will be mostly about my experiences in an effort to show how attempting to find that Cinderella job isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

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I started working around age 12 or 13 for my mother’s side hustle catering business. My sisters and I were expected to dress in conservative black and white while we served wedding guests and bridal parties. I learned early on what a great work ethic could get you through my mother who would pay me $50 after each event. Ballin’!

My mother was the queen of side hustles, she catered, did professional cakes, braids, and decorating all for money that would add to our household. What made this unique was that all these were things she was passionate about.

Fast forward 15 years and now here I am on the same search for exploring my own passions. I’ve always wanted to do a number of things with my life.

Being ultra-multifaceted and highly curious has lead me on some strange paths. On these paths I have learned more than an education alone would have given me. My lists of job titles have included but are not limited to:

 

Waitress

-Housekeeper

-Burger King Cashier (Twice)

-Bath & Body Works sales rep

-Security Officer

-Customer rep w/ an Auto shop

-Writing intern at a Police Department

-Summer Orientation Leader

-Soldier

 

And honestly, I can’t even remember some right now. I always wanted to learn about cars so I took a job at a Jiffy lube. There I learned about tires, oil, price markups and tricks I could use to save money for vehicle maintenance.

I also learned that a work-life balance was important to me. I don’t enjoy working 10 to 11 hours a day, 5 to 6 days a week, with no lunch break just for money. I took another job after this realization that included a pay cut from what I was making.

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As a security officer I learned that I value being rewarded for my hard work through pay and respect with a proper work-life balance. I worked third shift at this job and would often (damn near all the time) be called to work extra shifts or asked to stay over to cover down on other individuals at the last minute.

I decided to leave this job to pursue one with set hours, vacation time, and better pay. But, as a security officer I reinforced what I had learned as a Soldier regarding integrity, personal courage, and resilience. Karsten Strauss says, “Younger generations are willing to make big professional changes to be happy.” That is definitely true for me.

 

 

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Millennials often get a bad rep because they don’t believe in blind loyalty to any one organization. Instead, many millennials are loyal to the prospect of a stable income, work-life balance (meaning you’re not working so much you can’t enjoy life), and the opportunity to train and advance.

Those who have two or four year degrees sometimes find the job market unforgiving.

In a time where companies are highly selective on the qualifications expected of candidates; why can’t potential employees also expect more from companies?

Personally, I can’t get down with companies benefiting from my degree, work and military experience but not willing to match my skill set with pay and benefits. Taking on a job to secure an income until the next best job offer comes around is nothing to be ashamed of. I’m not saying take any job, or quit jobs after 2 months.

If you are someone who is seeking to discover the right career path then you should start with your interests and stay for as long as you feel that the job is actually contributing to your life.

 

After deciding on a topic I often like to find other articles that relate to ensure that my topic is relevant. I came across this awesome post on the Forbes website by Kaytie Zimmerman who wrote,

“Many individuals will actually take a pay cut to change jobs, though. A culture mismatch can drive an employee out the door faster than a smaller paycheck can. Poor work-life balance can also contribute to a job change. Working for a purpose is especially important for millennials. Any of these reasons can cause an employee to accept a lower salary in order to change.”

Full article:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/kaytiezimmerman/2016/06/07/millennials-stop-apologizing-for-job-hopping/2/#5ebd839c677e

 

There are countless different reasons why changing jobs can benefit a young adult. Older generations believe that they often secured a job early on in life and stayed put through to retirement. However, statistics show that every generation in their 20s has changed jobs at a similar rate.

 

I found myself in a pickle when I thought I knew what I wanted to do upon graduating from college. I got placed on a deployment and came back with different interests that didn’t fully align with what I thought would be my career. I didn’t know what I wanted to do or what purpose I was to serve in life.

That was a hard time for me but in taking on jobs that incorporated things I was interested in, I carved out a career path that makes sense to the person I am and the person I aim to be.

I’ve kissed a lot of frogs in terms of jobs and found a few princes along the way. I have a job that speaks to a side of me that has been rarely exercised and I love it. Will I find my Cinderella job? Who knows…but I plan on making the most out of the search.

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I share articles often in my post because many have great information that I may not touch on. Check these out below as they better explain the concept of millennials “job-hopping” in the workforce today.

 

https://www.cnbc.com/2017/04/21/the-no-1-millennial-need-from-a-new-job-and-new-boss.html

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In a time where everyone is flashing expense trips and purchases on Instagram it’s difficult not to mimic the trend.

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As young adults we face financial hardship greater than that of generations before us because many of us take on debt in the form of student loans before we even fully understand money. However, there are ways to enjoy life and to secure “the bag” for your future. Here are some tips on how to save responsibly:

 

1. Save something every month. There are so many tips out there that tell you to save at least 10% of any income you have; while that sounds great, percentages to young adults just sound scary or foreign. My rule?…save at least 20 or 50 or 100 dollars every month.

If you work part-time or full-time it doesn’t matter, the goal here is to get you use to saving. I’ve always been a hoarder of money because saving money gives me a rush. Once you see your savings account building, the same will likely happen for you. Some months you might be short on cash but save what you can because there’s a peace of mind in knowing that even when you’re broke, you’re not totally broke.

2. Practice delayed gratification. This is basically the opposite of impulse buying. Look…Ri Ri had on those fire thigh high boots but do you really need those right now? Fashionova will always have another sale so save your money for now so that you can better enjoy it later.

I admit that I fall off the wagon every now and again by over splurging on myself but there was a time when before I brought anything I asked myself “Do I really need this?” I did it often in the mall and by the time my best friend and I left the store I only had what I really, really wanted and hadn’t over spent. Don’t get it twisted, too much delayed gratification will leave you on the outskirts of life looking in. So enjoy yourself while you’re young especially but don’t blow a check on the new J’s because you may not get it right back.

3. Buy generic brands. As a low-income college student I found all kinds of life hacks and one of them was Dollar Tree LOL. I get my toothpaste, snacks, kitchen ware, party supplies, and just about everything from dollar tree. Why?…because the same set of forks or tube of toothpaste would cost a little more at Walmart.

My boyfriend blindly shops without ever really looking at prices. It drives me crazy because I know that with a little more attention and price comparison; he could be saving coins. Yea, Sara Lee’s bread is delicious but the Walmart loaf costs less and tastes fine. Oh yea, that bacon looks like its cut well but imma get this off brand for $2 less. It may not seem like a big deal but shopping for anything without paying attention to price will eventually add up.

I wouldn’t compromise on everything though. Weak 1 ply tissue from Dollar Tree will never compare to Charmin! Just be a smart, conscious shopper to understand where you can bend a little on the brands to save precious dollars every month.

4. Set some kind of budget. Hanging out with friends? Cool. Set a budget so that you won’t over spend. Need groceries? Set a budget. The ideal scenario would be to set a monthly budget that includes bills, savings, and miscellaneous expenses. Anything left over from that would be yours to do as you please. However, even I have trouble with this type of budget so I start small. Add up your bills then set your money aside for that. Put $50 into savings and set a money cap for a night out with the girls.

Baby steps people, baby steps.

5. Break up with your debit card. Like me, I’m sure most of you have been in a steamy relationship with your debit card. You take him everywhere you go and aren’t afraid to show him off (or swipe). The problem with this is that you’re not in a personal relationship with your actual money.

By taking out the amount of cash you need and leaving your card at home you won’t be so eager to spend. You’ll only spend on what you truly want…in theory. Swiping is addictive, handing cash over, not so much. So leave debit card bae at home more often.

6. Don’t be too bougie for coupons or discounts. Listen, I look forward to the first of the month mail because there will always be Dominos Pizza, Ruby Tuesdays, Hardees, and Checkers coupons in my mail.

On dates, I’m never ashamed to ask if they offer a military discount. Why?…because could I pay full price for a meal? Yea. Do I want to if I don’t have to?…Hell Naw. So get cute girl, put on that ruby woo and that cute dress but remember to pack that 15% off coupon in your purse.

 

Below are some additional links to get you thinking about savings:

http://www.youngadultmoney.com/2015/08/05/20-ways-to-save-money-in-your-20s/

http://www.npr.org/2011/05/20/136474108/young-adults-can-keep-it-simple-start-saving